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How fast do women in Pattaya bars reply?
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The question underneath most first messages is "will she answer, and when?". This guide answers it in general terms, from the patterns across many conversations on this site and from what the women themselves tell us about their days. The specifics belong to each woman, and nobody here is quoting anyone's messages.
The typical pattern
Most replies come within a few hours, and the fastest come in the Thai afternoon, between the time she wakes and the time her shift starts. Messages sent while she is working are often read late at night or the next day. A message that arrives at three in the morning, Thai time, is read around her lunchtime.
That is not a rule she follows, it is just the shape of a working day that ends in the small hours. Some women answer within minutes almost every time. Some answer the next afternoon, every time, and are just as glad to hear from you.
The best time to write
The best window is the middle of the Thai afternoon, roughly 1pm to 6pm Thai time (UTC+7). Thailand does not change its clocks, so it is easier to work from her clock than from yours:
- From the UK and Europe, your morning is her afternoon, and your lunchtime is her early evening, when she is getting ready for work.
- From the US East Coast, her afternoon is the middle of your night. Write before bed and she reads it when she wakes, or write first thing and it reaches her late in her afternoon.
- From the US West Coast, your late evening is her early afternoon, so writing before bed is ideal.
- From eastern Australia, your late afternoon and early evening is her afternoon.
The Thailand time difference guide has the hour-by-hour table for every major city, including the summer and winter changes on your side.
The quick-reply badge
Some women have a small badge on their card saying how many minutes they usually take to answer. It is worked out from her own replies here, and it only appears when she typically answers within fifteen minutes and has answered enough messages for that to be fair. Most women do not have one, and that is not a warning sign. It means she is a normal person with a job, who answers when she can.
If she has the badge, expect a quick answer when she is awake and off work. If she does not, expect the pattern above: a reply later in her day.
What a slow reply means
Usually nothing. A slow reply means she was working, sleeping, at the market, with her family, or simply busy. It does not mean the message was bad. The women here are not paid to reply and nobody on our side leans on them to answer faster, which is exactly why a reply, when it comes, is worth having.
A few things that genuinely slow replies down, all of them fixable:
- Long messages. A paragraph becomes a wall of Thai on a small screen. She will read it when she has time, which is later.
- Lots of questions at once. She answers the easiest one, or saves the whole thing for later.
- Writing into her working hours. It waits until the end of her night or the next day.
When to write again
Give it a day. If she has not answered after a full day, one short, light message is fine: something about your day, not a question about why she has not replied. "Hope work was not too busy last night" is easy to answer. "Did you get my message?" is harder, because it asks her to explain herself.
If she does not answer after two or three messages across a week, stop for a while. She may be away, busy with family, or not interested, and all three are her call. Men who keep writing into silence rarely get a warmer reply for it.
Why answering is easier here
On LINE with a translator app, every reply costs her four taps and a copy and paste. Here, she reads your message in Thai on her phone, on LINE or in her own app, and answers in Thai. The translation happens in the middle, so a reply costs her one sentence. Replies that are easy to write get written sooner.
Her replies are always free to read, whether you are paying or not. You can choose, in your Account, to be told by email or on your phone when she replies, so you do not have to keep checking.
The short version
Write in her afternoon, keep it short, ask one thing, and give her a day. Most of the time she answers, and when she takes a while, the clock is the most likely reason.
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