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Planning a return trip to Pattaya, and telling her
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A date on the calendar changes a long-distance conversation. Before it, you are remembering. After it, you are planning, and a conversation with something ahead of it keeps going in a way that one without it rarely does. This guide covers telling her, the practical side of the trip, and a few things that make the arrival go well.
Tell her early, and be specific
As soon as your dates are firm, say so. Not "maybe in the spring" but "I land on 14 March and fly home on the 28th". Specific dates are easy to translate and easy to plan around, and they tell her you mean it.
If your dates are not firm yet, say that too, honestly: "I am hoping for March, I will know by the end of the month." What you want to avoid is announcing a trip, letting it become part of the conversation, and then quietly not coming. That does more harm than never mentioning it.
Ask about her, not only about you
She has a job, a family, and a life that will carry on while you are there. Some useful questions to ask in the weeks before:
- "Will you be in Pattaya that week?" Many women go home to their families for holidays and festivals, and the second half of April, around Songkran, is often one of them.
- "Which days do you usually work?" Better to know her schedule than to assume she will be free every night.
- "Is there anything you would like from my country?" A small thing from home is a lovely gesture, and asking gives her a chance to say.
Let her answers shape the plan. A trip built around her schedule tells her far more than a trip that expects her to rearrange hers.
Times, in both zones
Thailand is UTC+7 all year. Flights are listed in local time at each end, which is useful: your landing time in Thailand is already in Thai time. When you tell her, give the Thai time and say which day it is in Thailand, because a flight that leaves on your Monday evening can land on Tuesday, or even Wednesday, in Thailand.
"I land at 6:40am Thai time on Tuesday the 14th" is a message nobody can misread. The time difference guide has the table if you need to convert.
How this site helps
If you tell us the date you are next in Pattaya, a few things happen:
- She sees a countdown. On her side, a small countdown appears under your name in her inbox, in Thai, and counts itself down. No message is sent to her; it is simply there when she looks.
- You get reminders. An email at a month, two weeks, a week, three days and one day before you land, so you remember to tell the women you have been talking to when you get in.
- Tonight shows your trip. The Tonight page shows your trip from its start date, including the birthdays of women you talk to that fall while you are there.
You can add or change the date in your Account at any time.
The practical checks
These change, so check each one against official sources before you fly:
- Entry rules for your passport. Many nationalities can enter Thailand without a visa for a set number of days, but the rules have changed in recent years and may change again.
- The digital arrival card. Thailand asks visitors to complete an arrival card online in the days before they land. Use the official government site only; copycat sites charge fees for a free form.
- Getting to Pattaya. From Bangkok's main airport it is a drive of roughly two hours, by taxi, private transfer or bus. Some flights land at U-Tapao, which is much closer.
- Your LINE account. If you set LINE up on a Thai SIM last time, make sure it will still work. The guide to LINE outside Thailand covers it.
- The weather. The cool season, roughly November to February, is the most comfortable. March to May is hot. June to October brings rain, usually in heavy bursts rather than all day.
When you arrive
Tell her when you land, and when you are settled. Then give her room. She may be working that night, sleeping after last night's shift, or busy with things that were planned before your flight was booked. Suggest a time rather than turning up unannounced, and let her pick.
Remember she is at work in the bar. If you visit her there, you are a customer in her workplace, among her colleagues and her manager, and all the usual courtesy applies.
If plans change
Flights get cancelled and trips get postponed. If yours does, tell her straight away, in plain words, with the new dates if you have them. A short honest message beats a long apologetic one, and an update in your Account moves her countdown to the new date.
The short version
Say when, early and specifically. Ask about her plans and her schedule. Give times in Thai time with the day. Check the entry rules and the arrival card before you fly, and when you land, let her set the pace.
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