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Fake profiles and money requests: how to tell
Updated
Most people you meet in Pattaya are exactly who they say they are. But men who have been to Thailand are also a well-known target for online scams, some run by people who have never been near Pattaya, and it is worth knowing what they look like. This guide is plain about the risks, including the ones on sites like this one.
The scams that come up again and again
- The emergency. A mother in hospital, a sick child, a motorbike accident, rent due tomorrow. The story is urgent, sad and specific, and there is always a sum attached.
- The ticket. She wants to visit you, and needs money for a passport, a visa, a flight or "show money" for immigration. Once paid, another fee appears.
- The stranger who knows her. A new account, claiming to be her sister, her friend or her boss, says she is in trouble and asks you to help. Sometimes her own account has been taken over.
- The investment. A friendly contact, often a stranger who "messaged the wrong number", slowly turns the conversation to a trading app or a crypto opportunity. This is the most expensive scam there is, and it has nothing to do with romance until it does.
- The photos. Intimate photos or video are traded, then used to demand money. Never send anything you would not want forwarded.
- The move. She asks to leave the app you met on for WhatsApp, Telegram or a new LINE account, very early, for no clear reason. Scams run more easily where nobody is checking.
Signs a profile is not who it claims to be
None of these proves anything alone. Several together should make you slow down.
- The photos look professional, or like a model, or a reverse image search finds them under other names.
- She will not do a video call, or the camera is always broken, or the call is always tomorrow.
- The story does not add up. She is in Pattaya, but does not know the area. Her English is perfect one day and broken the next.
- Things move very fast. Love within days, plans for marriage within weeks.
- Money comes up early, even indirectly: "I do not want to ask you, but..."
A video call is the simplest test. A real woman may be shy on camera, busy or tired, but she exists and will eventually say hello. The video call guide covers how to do it well across the time difference.
When money comes up
This is the hard part, because not every request is a scam. Some real women in hard situations do ask for help. From a phone, you cannot tell a real request from a scripted one.
Our advice is simple and unexciting: do not send money to anyone you know only through a phone. Not a small amount to see what happens, not once, not to a friend of hers. If you want to help someone you have actually met and know well, do it in person, for something you can see, on your next trip.
If you have already sent money and now suspect a scam, stop sending more, whatever you are told about getting the first amount back. Report it to your bank and to the police in your own country. Scammers often come back posing as someone who can recover your money for a fee. That is the same scam again.
How this site handles it
It is fair to ask the same questions of any site you meet someone on, so here are our answers. The Safety page has the full detail.
- Every woman joined herself. She opens the link on her own phone, signs in with her own account and confirms she is 20 or over. Nobody can add her without her doing that. For women at a bar, her ID is checked in person at the venue before she works there.
- No one here is staff paid to chat. Every conversation is with the woman herself, and we never write a message on anyone's behalf.
- Photographs are checked by a person before they appear, and she can hide or delete any of hers whenever she likes.
- We never charge you to read her replies. Charging a man to unlock words a woman has already written is a classic romance-scam mechanic, and her replies here are always free to read.
- Money only moves through the site. Buying her a real soft drink on her bar's till, a 30-day pass, or anything else here is paid through the site's own checkout. There is no way here to send cash to a person, and you should never be asked to.
- It is not for arranging paid sex, whatever the money is called: a gift, a fee or an allowance. That is the clearest way to lose an account here.
None of that makes anyone perfect. A real woman on a real site can still have a hard week and ask for help. The advice above still applies.
If something feels wrong
- Block them. Every conversation has a Block option in the panel beside it.
- Tell us. Use the Contact page and tell us who it is and which conversation. A person reads every report. You do not need proof to raise a worry.
- Do not argue or accuse. If it is a scam, argument gives the scammer more to work with. If it is not, an accusation ends a real friendship. Just stop, and tell us.
The short version
Real women exist, and many of them want to keep talking. The men who do get scammed usually saw the same signs first: a rush, a story, a sum. Keep money out of it, do a video call, and trust the feeling that something is off.
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